by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
Prospective clients who come to collaborative family law often do not have an adequate understanding of what it is, and how it is different from litigation. Because they have hired an attorney, they bring their stereotypes of what they think a lawyer does into...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
Nearly thirty years ago the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation was born. Almost immediately we began a new vocabulary. Most notable was the substitution of Parenting Plan for the more familiar, Custody and Visitation. The thinking was that the old phrase...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
When families rearrange themselves due to parental separation, divorce or re-marriage, important decisions must be made with regard to children. The Parent Advisor Service helps parents structure their families and their parenting to the uniqueness of their new...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
This seems to be the question of our age. Contemporary Americans wrestle with finding greater gratification from their marriages than any other time in our social history. Prior to the choices that have come from birth control our sources of gratification have come...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
When people decide to get divorced they usually think about the legal divorce. This however is only one third of the process. The physical separation / divorce and the emotional separation/divorce remain just as significant if not more so. The Physical Divorce If...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
Contemporary men and women live in an extraordinary time. In North America during the last years of the twentieth century, a sweeping psycho-social-cultural change took place in America. A select group of white middle class people, who became known as the Baby Boomer...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
I’m going to tell you this story how it was told to me. It comes from a woman I’ve known for a long time, but she told it to me just recently like this: As you know, I grew up in a rather small Midwestern town. It was so small that we all knew...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
What you can do to invest in your intimate relationship to forgive your partner for going back to their default behavior. People can not change who they are, they can only change their behavior and behavior change can only occur through intention. Hence, we have been...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
By now we all are pretty much aware of the definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome. Nowhere is this wisdom more applicable than within the context of a committed relationship. If we are going to make a difference we...
by Ron Heilmann | Apr 18, 2017 | Uncategorized
Commitment to the mutual welfare of each partner One of the reasons people marry is because they believe they will be better off as part of a team than they would be alone. The very essence of partnership (marriage) is a commitment to the welfare of BOTH parties...
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